Man in PrayerGood morning! I just got the new issue of the 12th Step Review from Father Emmerich Vogt, OP — so be sure to check it out at http://www.12-step-review.org.  But that’s not what I wanted to write about today. It’s been a few months since I’ve written—ups and downs; and not sure why I haven’t written, but it is what it is.  What I wanted to talk about was having a “home group” and how important that has become in my recovery walk.

I have always stuck to women’s meetings in my sobriety and relapses over the years. I got sober the first time for three years in a women’s meeting, and I always stuck with them. But now, because of work and family responsibilities I’ve found a 7am meeting that works great for my schedule.  It’s a “mixed” meeting, meaning there are men and women there.  I go every morning. And I LOVE it.  These are my “homies.”

I still stick with the women. The women are the ones that will help me and guide me in the steps. But the men! The men amaze me daily. I just listen to them open up about things; and I am like a student in a classroom. I have 5 brothers and a Dad and a husband and two sons. But I had no idea that men actually have feelings — ha ha! Of course I knew they did, but I had never heard a man express himself like the men do in my meetings now. It is really helping me!  I can’t explain it.

These men — these amazing, sober, successful, Dads, brothers, husbands, sons — these men are living life with such courage and strength. And they have humility and love God. And they want to be good men.  And they fail and get back up. And they succeed and don’t boast. And they’re FUNNY.

So, for all you men out there… Thank you! Thank you for showing me what it means to be real men. It helps me understand my strong, silent type husband, my logical father, my quiet sons better. Through you, I’m loving the men in my life better. And that’s a really cool thing!


15 thoughts on “Homies

  1. Reg
    How was your group organized? In other words, how did you identify the people, where did they come from. Thanks

    • Thank you! Felt good writing again, actually! Hopefully, I’ll be back again soon. I have a book to review that someone sent me, so I promised that would be my next post.

  2. What? Men have feelings??? haha! Seriously, though, AA meetings are probably the number one place where men can actually express their true feelings and fears w/o shame or judgement. I love AA. The rooms are filled with love and trust and encouragement and acceptance. Sarah

  3. This is great. I,too, have a home meeting as well as a center. It’s been eye opening to say the least. These men are brutally honest about their paths. What’s more is they ask me follow up questions later about things I have shared. Remarkable!

  4. I so agree~ I am more comfortable in sharing at my home group~ it is all women but I do enjoy this one 8 am meeting. it is mixed too and I feel comfortable there. I went to day and said to myself, i need to come here at least once a week. it is out of my way but i can make it work at least 1 x a week.

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